Dating Dave | Auckland Based Dating Coach

Why Dating Feels Harder Than It Did 20 Years Ago

March 9, 2026

Every now and then, when I sit down with someone at a singles event or during a coaching conversation, they say something that makes me smile because I’ve heard it so many times before. They lean in a little, shake their head, and say, “Dating just feels so much harder than it used to.” And [...]

The Signs Someone Is Serious About Building a Life With You

March 9, 2026

One of the most common questions people ask when they begin dating someone new is a simple but important one: how do I know if this person is serious about me? In the early stages of attraction, it can be difficult to tell the difference between someone who enjoys spending time together and someone [...]

Why Emotional Safety Matters More Than Romance

March 9, 2026

When people talk about relationships, the word romance tends to dominate the conversation. Movies, books, and popular culture often portray love as a whirlwind of passion, dramatic gestures, and overwhelming emotion. Flowers arrive unexpectedly, couples run through airports declaring their [...]

The Surprising Reason Some Relationships Suddenly End

March 9, 2026

One of the most puzzling experiences people face in dating and relationships is when something that seemed perfectly fine suddenly falls apart. Two people may have been spending time together regularly. The conversations felt comfortable. There was affection, laughter, and a sense that the [...]

Why Some People Keep Choosing the Wrong Partners

March 9, 2026

One of the most common frustrations people share when talking about their dating experiences is the feeling that they somehow keep ending up with the wrong partner. They meet someone who seems promising at first, the relationship develops, and then gradually the same problems begin to appear again. [...]

The Difference Between Chemistry and Compatibility

March 9, 2026

One of the most confusing things people experience in dating is the powerful feeling we often describe as chemistry. It can appear suddenly and intensely. You meet someone and the conversation flows effortlessly. There’s laughter, excitement, and a strong sense of attraction. You might find [...]

Why Kind People Often Struggle in Modern Dating

March 9, 2026

One of the things I hear most often when speaking with people about their dating experiences is a quiet sense of confusion. Many genuinely kind, thoughtful individuals find themselves wondering why dating seems to feel so difficult for them. They treat people with respect, they communicate [...]

The Quiet Ways Someone Shows They Truly Care

March 9, 2026

One of the most interesting things about modern dating is how often people look for dramatic signals of love. Grand gestures, passionate declarations, endless texting, elaborate surprises — these are the things that popular culture tends to highlight. Yet when you speak with couples who have [...]

Why Confidence Is More Attractive Than Looks

March 9, 2026

If you ask people what they find attractive in a potential partner, you’ll hear all sorts of answers. Some mention physical appearance. Others talk about humour, intelligence, kindness, or shared interests. Yet when you observe real relationships forming in everyday life, a fascinating pattern [...]

Why Some People Lose Interest Right When Things Start Going Well

March 9, 2026

If you’ve spent any time dating in the modern world, you’ve probably experienced something confusing that seems to happen far too often. You meet someone who appears genuinely interested. The conversation flows easily. There’s laughter, curiosity, maybe even a few sparks of excitement. You [...]

Why the Right Relationship Feels Calmer, Not More Dramatic

February 25, 2026

Many people enter dating believing that love should feel intense, consuming, and emotionally dramatic. Movies, social media, and modern dating culture often reinforce the idea that strong feelings must come with highs and lows, longing, uncertainty, and emotional turbulence. When a relationship [...]

Why You Should Pay More Attention to How Dating Makes You Feel Than Where It’s “Going”

February 25, 2026

One of the most common mistakes people make in dating is focusing too heavily on where a connection might lead, rather than how it actually feels to be in it. Questions like “Does this have potential?”, “Could this turn into something serious?”, or “Am I overthinking this?” dominate [...]

Why Mixed Signals Are the Answer (Even When You Don’t Like It)

February 25, 2026

Mixed signals are one of the most frustrating experiences in dating. Someone seems interested one day and distant the next. Messages fluctuate. Plans are made and then feel half-hearted. Emotional closeness appears and disappears without explanation. Most people interpret mixed signals as [...]

Why Attraction Alone Is Never Enough to Sustain a Relationship

February 25, 2026

Attraction is often treated as the most important ingredient in dating. People talk about chemistry, spark, and butterflies as if these feelings are the foundation of lasting relationships. While attraction matters, relying on it alone is one of the biggest reasons relationships start intensely and [...]

Why “Taking It Slow” Can Be Healthy — And When It’s Actually a Red Flag

February 25, 2026

“Let’s take it slow” has become one of the most commonly used phrases in dating, yet it often leaves people feeling more uncertain than reassured. For some, it signals emotional maturity, intentional pacing, and respect. For others, it becomes a holding pattern that stretches on without [...]

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