Dating Dave

Something has changed in the atmosphere around dating. Singles still want affection, sex, companionship and long-term partnership, but fewer appear willing to pursue those things at any cost. Dating apps are deleted for months, invitations are declined and people who once filled their weeks with [...]

A relationship once had fairly visible edges. Two people knew whom they saw, where they went and whether an ex was still calling the house. Social media has made those edges less obvious. A partner can remain connected to former lovers, follow attractive strangers, exchange private messages and [...]

The first date was perfectly pleasant. Conversation moved along, nobody behaved badly and the evening ended with a friendly hug. Yet there were no fireworks. No racing heart, no immediate sense that the room had changed and no desire to cancel every other plan. Modern dating advice often treats [...]

A new match can feel full of possibility. The photographs are appealing, the profile contains several promising details and the opening messages arrive easily. Then the conversation enters a strange middle stage. Both people continue talking, but neither suggests meeting. Days become weeks, [...]

Few social situations are as concentrated as a conventional first date. Two strangers sit opposite each other with nothing to do except decide whether they might become important to one another. Every pause becomes noticeable, every question carries extra weight and both people are expected to be [...]

A good first date ends, both people go home smiling, and then a small contest begins. Who will send the first message? How long should they wait? If one person replies immediately, will they appear too eager? If they wait until tomorrow, will they seem confident or uninterested? Two adults who [...]

Friends have always played a part in romance. They introduced single people at parties, offered opinions after first dates and quietly warned one another about charming strangers with complicated histories. Dating apps appeared to make that role less important. A person could search alone, choose [...]

Dating burnout rarely arrives as one dramatic decision. It develops quietly. You stop feeling curious when a new match appears. Messages that once seemed promising begin to look like work. A cancelled date brings relief rather than disappointment, and the thought of explaining your life to another [...]

The newest place to look for a date may not be a bar, a party or an app. It may be the starting line of a Saturday morning running group, where everybody is slightly out of breath and nobody has had time to choose the perfect photograph. Across cities large and small, singles are turning up at [...]

For years, modern dating treated uncertainty as a form of sophistication. The person who cared least appeared to hold the most power. Replies were delayed to avoid seeming eager, invitations were kept deliberately vague and conversations about relationships were postponed until somebody could no [...]

Writing a dating profile has always been a peculiar exercise. You are expected to describe a whole person in a space barely large enough for a restaurant menu, sound confident without boasting, be funny without trying too hard and state what you want without frightening anyone away. It is little [...]

There was a time when downloading a dating app felt like opening a door. Suddenly, there were hundreds of single people within reach, all neatly arranged in a stack of photographs and short biographies. You could look for love from the sofa, during a lunch break or while waiting for the kettle to [...]