As men, we often find ourselves saying “I wish I knew how to attract women and get more dates.” This can be a frustrating experience, and it’s all too common. We go out on dates, hoping to prove ourselves in some way to the women we’re with, but that attraction just never seems to materialize. The main problem here is that there are many myths and misconceptions about women and men that we’ve internalized, which can hold us back. In this blog post, we’re going to tackle these myths head-on and give you the information you need to get started on the right track.
Myth 1: Women Want What They Say They Want. The first myth that needs to be debunked is the idea that women want what they say they want. This is simply not the case. Women have an ideal picture of romance that has been programmed into their heads from a young age, primarily from reading fairy tales and romance novels. But the truth is that women respond more to certain behaviors than to words, and these behaviors can be learned.
Myth 2: Women are Hard to Understand. This is a gross example of male laziness and couldn’t be further from the truth. Women are actually very easy to understand, but many men fail to do so because they think logically while women think emotionally. All it takes is learning to understand the way women think and how they view the world, and you’ll be well on your way to understanding them.
Myth 3: You Have All the Skills You Need Right Now. Some men believe that they can’t improve their skills with women, but this simply isn’t true. Your skills with women can only improve from where they are now unless you’re a rock star or movie star. All it takes is getting the right information and putting yourself on the right track. Heck, it’s taken me years to build the skills I have – and I’m NOT perfect!
Myth 4: Attractive Women are More Important. There’s the myth that attractive women are more important and their opinion matters more. We live in a society that is obsessed with beauty, and girls spend billions on vanity products like makeup, hair coloring, and cosmetics. Psychologically, we tend to have more positive perceptions of people who are attractive and often attribute more talent and capability to them. But the truth is that everyone is just as valuable, no matter what they look like.
Myth 5: You have to manipulate or trick a woman to get her to sleep with you. This is a common misconception among men. Women enjoy sex just as much as men and many even get more pleasure from it. The reason why women have better control over their desire is due to evolutionary programming where they have had to choose a mate wisely. But this programming can easily be understood and used to your advantage. All you have to do is bring out certain behaviors to appeal to women.
Myth 6: To attract hot women, you need to be rich, famous, good-looking, or a jerk. Or, nice guys can’t get women. This is not true. Women aren’t attracted to jerks, fame, or wealth, but rather the feelings they associate with these traits. Jerks offer a challenge, fame offers power, and wealth offers security and comfort. These are just external indicators that you can simulate with your own behavior. You don’t have to be wealthy or famous to attract women (but I guess it must help a small number of men).
Myth 7: Women are better than men. This myth stems from the media’s negative portrayal of men. However, it’s not accurate. Women have their own problems and are not better than men. They are simply women and can be understood.
Myth 8: Telling a woman more about yourself and your feelings will increase your chances of impressing her. The opposite is true. The more you reveal about yourself, the less she will feel for you. Telling her about your feelings won’t necessarily make her fall in love with you. This is a common misconception among men, and it’s something I’ve personally experienced. I thought it was right to be honest and up-front about past situations, but this backfired spectacularly. This was a big learning for me personally. A woman’s top priority is how she feels. To get her interested in you, you need to create a balance of curiosity, excitement, and hope within her.
Myth 9: Asking a woman out on a date is what she wants. The conventional act of asking a woman out on a date is dull and overused. Instead, you need to use your imagination. This common approach has become cliché and all women are familiar with it. By asking her out, you force her to categorize you as a romantic partner. It’s like you’re asking her if she’s interested in a romantic relationship or just a free meal and drinks. Investing money in a woman who isn’t already interested in you is like putting money into a mystery investment. Instead, you should learn ways to determine if she’s genuinely into you.
Myth 10: Being a “nice guy” guarantees success with women. Unfortunately, this belief is false. It can cause long-lasting negative effects and turn you into a bitter and angry individual. There are numerous myths surrounding women and seduction, which stem from years of incorrect advice, media, and Hollywood influence. To achieve success with women, it’s crucial to understand their true thoughts and what changes you can make in yourself.
The above 10 Myths are just some of the many myths that are holding men back when it comes to attracting women and getting more dates. By learning the truth about these myths and putting yourself on the right track, you can become more successful in the dating world. So take some time to educate yourself and start putting these lessons into practice. Good luck! Dating Dave is right behind you!