“Who Loves Who the Most” is a song by the New Zealand band, The Exponents. The song was released in 1992 and was a hit in New Zealand and Australia. It’s a love song that describes a prior relationship and poses the question of who loves who the most – which is an interesting question to assess and answer.
The song starts with the question “Who loves who the most?” and the chorus repeats this question several times throughout the song. The people in the song lyrics were obviously previously involved in a one-night stand, and they’ve recently caught up again in the street… but there are clear memories from the past. The girl said she still loves the guy, even though it’s been years since they’ve been together. It’s almost like they want to be there for each other and support each other, in some weird stalker way.
The song suggests that love is a mutual exchange of love and affection. The guy is now in another relationship, but on this particular night, he’s home alone and lonely… and he’s thinking of the girl from the street and realizing what he’s missing. His cry of who loves who the most is referencing that he still has feelings for this girl too. None of this bodes well for his current relationship by the way.
Dating Dave knows that love is not just about giving, but also about receiving. Love is a two-way street, and both people in the relationship need to give and receive love in order to have a strong and healthy relationship. Love can be shown through the things that a person does for their partner, such as cooking them dinner, doing their laundry, or just being there for them when they need someone to talk to. Love can be measured through good communication, and the more open and honest the communication is, the stronger the relationship is likely to be. Love is evident when a couple has been together for a long time as that love for each other is demonstrated through the longevity of the relationship.
But in this case, the love talked about was from a one-night stand years ago, hardly a long-term committed relationship. In this case, the “love” is more likely to be lust. Perhaps the song should be called “who lusts after who the most”? Dating Dave thinks that would be a much more accurate title.
Anyway, getting back to the song title: Can you measure who loves who the most? The answer is no, love cannot be scientifically measured. Love is an emotional state and it cannot be quantified or compared. Each person’s love for someone is unique and it cannot (and ideally should not) be compared to someone else’s love. And that’s pretty much where the song leaves things too. It’s ultimately left up to the listener to interpret the meaning of the lyrics and come to their own conclusion.