Want to break up with your boyfriend? Believe it or not, guys are sensitive. Being dumped from a great height by a girl is never fun. I know, because I’ve experienced it (and hope to never again). Some of us guys literally idolise girls when we date them, seeing them as examples of purity, light and loveliness – so when they break our hearts, we feel devastated. If you’re going to break up with your boyfriend, help to soften the blow by preparing the scene in advance.

You can start giving little hints one at a time during your relationship that things are not going well. Discussing your relationship with him and knowing his views about other girls can be helpful prior to the break up day. Make him feel good about himself, so that once you leave, he is ready to face the world once again.

If you notice some girl trying to grab his attention, make him aware of that. It will make him feel important. You can also praise him from time to time by saying things like ”You can keep any girl happy” etc (even if he didn’t keep you happy).

Try finding a perfect place to announce the break up to him. Don’t choose anywhere you’ve got relationship memories together. Going somewhere new to both of you is more comfortable. Deciding on a perfect time is also important. If your boyfriend is sensible, a private place is nice, day or night. However, if your boyfriend is a drama king and prone to over-react, make your break up speech in a more public place, and in daylight. He will be less likely to embarrass you or get upset / angry.

If you’ve had gifts of jewellery from him during your relationship, make sure you return this to him, as it will help him to understand the seriousness of the situation. He’ll realise then that you definitely don’t want to keep seeing him, and you’ll also appear to be a genuine and kind girl who wasn’t after him for his money. You can also ask him to return stuff you’ve given him too. This gifting and acceptance that the relationship is over will help both of you to recover more quickly from sadness.

Strictly avoid accepting calls or messages from him and discourage him thinking that there are any chances to get you back again. You can tell him that you need time to move on, and that you just don’t want things to be complicated. Maybe you can be friends with him later on – but don’t promise that, as it may encourage him to keep bugging you, and hold a flame for you.

Making your breakup as kind and calm as possible will minimise the emotional damage for both of you. End your relationship in a loving manner where possible – by being calm, sincere, and honest – and then walk away to your brighter future, without looking back. Only by leaving behind the baggage of the relationship can you get yourself ready for your next adventure.