Dating on the internet can be fantastic – but it’s not without its hazards. There are some unique risks with internet dating (where you can’t see the person you’re dating for real up-front), and people are not always who they say they are. Saying that, the vast majority of internet dates are safe. My reason for this article is simply to ensure that you date safely… and without issues.

When you first list yourself on a dating site, use a screen name rather than your real name. For example, if your name is Rachel Hughes, you might use “siren35”, or “sexybabe” – this is safer than using “Rachel.Hughes” or “rachelhughes1” etc. Protect your real name until you have met your man in person and have got to know him reasonably well over dinner etc.

Use a separate email address for dating, and never give out any of your personal information in early communications. If the other person seems to be pressing you for this information, feel free to stop all communication with them. People who press you for information this hard up front may well be very pressured in a relationship with you too – and nobody likes that.

Pay lots of attention to emails received and the way the person expresses themselves – and make note of any comments that seem suspicious or contradictory. Don’t rush into anything. Don’t agree to meet up with the person until you are comfortable. If you like the person, but aren’t sure of any element, ask for proof of who they are to secure your trust. Request a photograph, and be ready to reciprocate. And when you do meet – finally – work out if you trust this person. Without trust, the relationship won’t go anywhere. And definitely make sure your first meeting is in a public space, with other people around.

Keep safe when you’re internet dating, and contact me if you have any questions.