Starting an online relationship can be exciting and nerve-wracking at the same time, especially when it comes to sending emails. It’s natural to want to tell them everything about yourself, but it’s important to exercise restraint and avoid overwhelming your potential suitor. Yes, even I’ve sometimes been accused of “oversharing” information. I’ve always tried to be honest and up-front with potential partners about my life and past situations, but I’m learning that sometimes this is not a good idea and that on occasion less is more. This is a learning curve most of us will go through at some time.

Here are some guidelines on what to say (and what not to say) when communicating with your crush.

Avoid Sending Threats: Threatening someone through any electronic communications channel is a federal / Government (depending on where you live) offense and will not only put you in legal trouble but will also damage your chances of building a relationship. Remember, emails, texts, and messenger messagesare considered public property and should not contain anything offensive or threatening.

Be Deliberate About Sharing Information: When getting to know someone, it’s important to share meaningful and positive information about yourself. However, it’s also crucial to be deliberate about what you choose to share. Every piece of information you share will give your crush a better understanding of who you are and what you value. Share your thoughts, opinions, and sense of humor, but make sure each communication is purposeful and adds value to the conversation. From personal experience, avoid speaking about your past relationships or crushes, as this can lead to fire-filled discussions later.

Focus on Positivity: Negative energy can drain the creativity and vibrancy from a relationship. When communicating with your crush, aim to be positive and optimistic. This will not only brighten your partner’s day but also show them that you have a healthy and positive outlook on life.

Talk About Yourself: In the early stages of getting to know someone, it’s important to be as open and honest as possible. This means talking about yourself and your feelings, allowing your potential mate to determine if you’re intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually compatible. Don’t be afraid to share details about your life and interests, and always ask plenty of questions about your partner as well.

Starting a relationship always requires observing basic communication etiquette, such as being positive, deliberate, and open when communicating. These guidelines will help you build a solid foundation of trust and comfort, setting the stage for a happy and successful relationship. Happy typing!