It’s a statement that’s been made for many years, and one I think is primarily based on myth. The popular view is that all straight men “get off” watching lesbian girl-on-girl sexual activities – whether that’s happening in front of them in person, or in some kind of porn stream or movie. Whilst some men are definitely into this, I suspect there are likely just as many that have lower interest in this activity.

Some of the men that do enjoy watching lesbian activity may be aroused by the physical aspect of sexual activity, while others may be drawn to the emotional or psychological elements. Additionally, some men may simply be curious or enjoy the novelty of watching others engage in intimate acts. I’m noting here that some women may also be curious to watch other women having sex of various kinds.

There are likely cultural and societal factors that contribute to any sexual interest. For example, many cultures have a history of objectifying and sexualizing women, and some men (or women) may be drawn to watching people of their preferred gender engage in sexual activity as a result. Additionally, the proliferation of pornography and the ease with which it can be accessed may also play a role.

Ultimately, individuals are drawn to watching people engage in sexual activity for complex and varied reasons. It is important to be respectful of personal boundaries here. You should always aim to ensure that any sexual content is consumed consensually and ethically, by yourself and others with you.

I reached out to some lesbian friends to ask them why they prefer to sleep with other girls rather than guys. Their responses were varied, but they gave some common reasons for their preferences.

Sexual attraction was important. Some of the women were physically attracted to other women because they found them more visually appealing than men. They also stated that they felt a stronger emotional connection to other women and felt more comfortable expressing their feelings and desires with someone of the same gender. Because women have common shared experiences and perspectives, some of the women felt that this created a stronger foundation for their sexual and romantic relationships. Some of the lesbian women I spoke to believed that their sexual orientation was an important part of their personal identity and self-expression. And I agree with them! Sex is one part of who we all are.

It is worth noting that these reasons given were not mutually exclusive and that many women may have multiple reasons for why they are attracted to other women. Additionally, these reasons may evolve and change over time, and what someone finds appealing in a sexual or romantic partner can be influenced by a variety of factors, including personal experiences and societal norms.

If you’re a guy or girl who likes watching two or more women making love, all power to you. If you’re a guy or girl who likes watching two or more men making love, all power to you. If you like watching multiple people making love of any gender, kink, or persuasion – or if you like taking part in the sexual activities in groups, couples, orgies or whatever, all power to you too. We don’t judge here. Enjoy yourself and be kind and courteous to yourself and others. You do you!