Guys often ask me how to get a girl’s photo number. It’s easy, I tell them. Just ask them, without scaring them away as you do so. It’s really NOT that difficult. You see, I’ve watched enough men try to get numbers off girls, and I know that different men have completely different approaches. Being shy will make it difficult for some to be courageous enough to approach the person they’re curious about. Some men are too aggressive in their approach and drive the ladies away. You’ve got to find the right balance.

To be successful, you just need to ask a girl for her phone number during a normal type conversation, in a non-chalant fashion (as if you’re not bothered either way). She’ll know you’re interested because you’ve asked, but she’ll also not feel threatened if you seem very casual about it. Here’s one approach that might work as you’re about to say goodbye to a girl you’ve met that night: “Hey, I really enjoyed meeting you tonight, and I’d like to be able to phone you someday.”

If a girl is comfortable with you, you’ll get her number then. If not, she may ask for your number instead… this is still a good sign. It means she’s interested enough that she *might* phone you. Some girls like to think things through before any type of commitment (and giving you her phone number is viewed as a kind of commitment by some). If she likes you, she should ring within the next 3 days.

Women love confidence. Some women make men work to get their numbers, just to show this confidence. How you handle yourself can greatly affect your chances of seeing this girl again. Always make sure that you handle your approach politely and in a well mannered way. Never appear desperate to get her number. Women hate desperate men as many of them become stalkers. So if she has given you her phone number, that’s great. But if she hasn’t, move on. Not every woman you ask will be interested in you, sadly.

Some girls are less protective of an email address (and some like to use these to see how well you will write to them). So if you don’t get a phone number, perhaps ask for an email address instead. Remember that every girl is different in this world. Remember also that there are over 3 billion of them – so don’t feel pressured or rushed.