When Men and ladies flirt, they do it differently, and they often do it with different expectations of the outcome. Flirting can be fun, and it can lead on to a full blown relationship, or sometimes just a friendship with a girl or guy, who can introduce you later to their friends. Keep your options open.

Men are expected to make bold gestures to get a girl’s attention – it tells her clearly that you are interested in HER. Once you’ve exchanged glances and smiles across an area, and if you think that this girl is interested in you (or could become interested fairly quickly), send a drink to her. Watch her response when she receives it. She could be really happy and smile to you – and even come over to thank you – or she could be completely shocked. Watch the reaction, and go from there. Don’t expect a girl to fall at your feet just because you’ve bought her a drink though.

If you do get invited to her table to sit down and chat, DON’T concentrate on getting a date with her. Concentrate instead on having friendly and fun communication. If she likes you, then she’ll be more receptive to being asked out. Asking her out as soon as you sit down will cause you to get the “no thanks, I’m not interested” speech. Girls like to get to know a guy and trust him. If she thinks you are witty, fun to be with, and honest, she may well ask YOU out on a date. Let her lead.

Never approach more than 1 lady within the same cluster of people. No girl wants a challenger – even if it is her best friend. And ladies may think you’re desperate and looking for any girl to be with. Whether you are desperate or not, don’t show it! If you are going to give your target girl a compliment, make sure that it’s a real compliment. There’s nothing worse than somebody giving out a load of overblown lines that are not believeable. Find one genuinely nice thing about the girl, notice it, and compliment her genuinely.

When you’re flirting, DON’T get “touchy feely”. Do not ever place your hands on a girl uninvited. Some ladies don’t have any objection to ‘touchy feely’ encounters, but others are truly horror-stricken by it. Respect the girl you have met, and wait until you have had the chance to understand more about her, before even thinking of touching her. Any flirting actions should be confined to the arms or above.

Importantly, to flirt well you must respect yourself at all times. Girls forever fall for men who are just that little but elusive and out of reach – they like the mystery and excitement. So when you’re flirting, don’t hover around girl clusters, or act in a desperate manner. Think of yourself as being a “special man catch” and you’re more likely to attract a great girl that you can respect and love.