As a dating coach, I understand that the first few weeks of a relationship can be crucial in determining whether or not it will be successful in the long run. That’s why it’s important to make sure that you’re putting your best foot forward and making a great impression. In this blog post, I’ll be sharing four things you can do to hook someone in the first two weeks of dating.
Have a “real dates only” policy. It’s become all too common for people to suggest a “Netflix and chill” date before they’ve even earned it. When someone suggests this, it’s important to remember that you have the power to set the standard for the relationship. Instead of agreeing to this type of date, you can reply with something like, “As much as I like a snuggle, I prefer to get out into the world with someone first. It keeps things interesting.”
Buy the popcorn. It doesn’t matter if you believe that it’s a guy’s job to pay for the date or not, but one mistake that many people make is not contributing in any way. This can make the guy feel used, and it has nothing to do with money. Instead, it has to do with the lack of gestures. So, even if he’s paying for the movie and dinner, you can still contribute by buying the popcorn or something similar. This sends the message that you don’t take him for granted and that you’re a team player.
Get excited about the little things. Being cool isn’t about indifference, it’s about passion. When you get excited about the little things, it sends the message that you’re fun to do life with. This can make the person you’re with start thinking about all the things they want to do with you in the future.
Be a grown-up and pick up the phone. It’s so annoying waiting for people to text back. Instead of waiting for someone to text you, take the initiative and call them. This sets a precedent for the relationship and lets them know that you expect an adult relationship.
In addition to these tips, it’s also important to remember that having standards is confidence, but knowing how to communicate them in an attractive way is competence. There’s a term in the food industry called the “bliss point,” which refers to the optimal level of salty and sweet in a food that keeps you wanting more. I believe that there’s a similar bliss point in communication, an optimal level of assertiveness that keeps the other person wanting more. By following these tips and finding your bliss point in communication, you’ll be able to attract the right person and have the relationship you want.