If you want to create heightened sexual tension with your partner, it’s very important to spend quality time together in foreplay, prior to sex. Women take longer than men to be aroused, and it takes time and effort to stimulate a woman’s biggest sex organ: her brain. Guys – it’s worth the effort!

Foreplay is not something you begin minutes before intercourse. It’s something you should start a few hours before. Send your partner a sexually explicit text ahead of time, telling them about what you want to do to them when you’re together. This will get them thinking about you. When you meet up, take things slowly, and start by cooking your partner a meal or taking them somewhere nice for dinner. Having good satisfying food often leads to good sex! A glass of wine or two can help you both relax too.

Ensure your foreplay doesn’t follow any set routine. Mix things up and feel free to experiment. You might get turned on, for example, watching your partner masturbate, or by talking dirty to each other for a period. There’s no rush to get naked, so delay this until you’re feeling hot and heavy together. You can lightly push clothes aside or pull them up or down to create an element of “endlessness” – take your time, and build the anticipation.

Including different sensations in your foreplay can be great for arousal. Alternate warm towels and ice cubes into places you’d kiss or stroke, to cause the blood vessels to expand and contract. This can lead to some amazing sensations and pleasure in your partner. Be very aware of your partner and their responses at all times. Guys tend to be turned on by visual things, whilst women respond well to words and sounds. Guys – don’t go straight for fondling breasts for example: often this is more exciting for you than for the woman! Use words and soft hand strokes to build up the visual picture in your woman’s mind of what’s about to happen first.

Make your foreplay AMAZING for you and your partner by being mentally present at all times. The quality of your foreplay is more important than the length of time it takes – but remember not to rush it. Good orgasms take time, and building the anticipation and ensuring that both partners feel safe, supported and loved, will certainly help things to flow.

Have you got some good foreplay tips to share that have worked for you? Let Dating Dave know – I always love to hear from my readers!