If you’re a girl looking for the perfect guy, and someone you can be with long term, follow my tips below to ensure success. Guys work in fairly predictable ways – I’m trying to help you understand a little about how guys think here (or at least how I think), to improve your chances of dating success.

Dating Tip For Women #1 – I don’t need to know about your ex-boyfriend or partner – at least not for a while.
So I’ve just met you, and you start rattling on about your ex. It’s nice that you’re honest and all that, but telling me about the partner you’ve just moved on from this early in our relationship will suggest to me that you’re not over your last boyfriend, or that you’re bitter. Either way, I don’t want to be with a girl in that mindset… because I’m a guy, and selfish. I want you to focus your time on ME. I want you to find out what I’m interested in and like to do. I want to talk about ME (and you) when I’m with you – and not waste my time talking to you about your previous lovers.

Dating Tip For Women #2 – Be yourself, please.
Don’t try to impress me by making up stuff about you. Don’t put socks in your bra to emphasize your assets. Don’t claim to be the managing director of a company when you’re the office junior. Just be honest with me and tell me things as they are. If I’m going to love you, it’s for you just as you are – and not for you as you could one day be. Don’t build up my picture of you on a lie – because when you inevitably let me see the reality over time, I’m likely to run. I don’t like to be tricked. Besides, if you are comfortable just showing me and telling me about the real you, you’re going to be more relaxed in my company – and that means we’re going to have lots of fun and happiness together.

Dating Tip For Women #3 – Don’t worry about the future yet…
Hey, the future is good, but for the first few dates I just want to find out about where you are in your life right now. Don’t push for marriage and children at our first meeting. Don’t start planning holidays together with me on date number 2 or 3. Give me time to get to know you. When we know each other better, we can have these more deep and meaningful discussions – but don’t scare me off early! I’m not a piece of meat, or an empty wallet – and hey, I have a brain too. Let’s take time to do things.

Dating Tip For Women #4 – Accept the compliments I give you.
I’m trying to be nice to you. I see you and say “Hi, you look beautiful this evening.” Just say, “thank you Dating Dave”. Don’t proceed to tell me all the reasons you feel you don’t look beautiful. I don’t care if the hairdresser messed up your hair, or the dress you wanted to wear was in the washing laundry basket, or if your favourite stockings had a ladder in them. I still think you look nice. Just accept it – it will save me having to repeat the compliments over and over, which is tiring. I promise that if you give me a compliment, I’ll say “thank you babe”.

Dating Tip For Women #5 – It’s ok for you to have opinions on stuff.
Do you know why I’m going out with you? Because I want to know more about you. Because I want to be with you. Because I find you interesting. And interesting means that you have your very own opinions. When we’re talking about a topic, let’s say clothes shopping or politics, it’s ok for us to have different tastes, different political ideas etc. In fact it’s refreshing to have the different views. Don’t believe what some dating sites say – e.g. that you should always agree with my thoughts. If I’m going to grow to love you, I’m going to be really interested in things that you say – so I don’t want to see an exact mirror of my own thoughts and opinions. I don’t want to marry myself. Be different – it’s ok!

These are only my top 5 dating tips for women – you may well have your own. I’m happy to discuss my thoughts with you at anytime (send an email to me – Dating Dave). I’d also love to know if you think that there are any further tips I should add to the list.

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