Girls occasionally write to me and ask me for personalized advice on how to get the main they love (but that perhaps only likes them presently) to start to grow love towards them. Whilst love is a complex emotion and is unique for every individual, men are pretty simple creatures (from my experience being a man at least). We all want a girl who will treat us well, emotionally connect to us, show kindness through acts of service and spending time together, and a tiger in the bedroom – or something like that. So what are some of the key things girls can do for a guy in your life that you’d like to build something with?

Show him affection: Give him compliments and show your appreciation for the things he does,
both big and small. This will help build his confidence in you and make him feel loved.

Spend quality time together: Take the time to get to know each other better by doing activities that you
both enjoy – including exploring new places, cultures, foods or other experiences together.

Be honest with your feelings: Letting him know how you feel about him can be a great way to foster a deeper connection between the two of you, as it shows vulnerability and trust on your part.

Listen attentively: Pay attention when he speaks and try to understand what is important to him so that you can support his dreams or goals if they are something that is meaningful to both of you.

Offer emotional support: Being there for him during tough times shows that he can rely on you no matter what life throws at them, which will strengthen any romantic relationship between the two of you significantly over time.

If you follow the above advice and put it into practice daily, then you should expect to see positive developments in your potential relationship. If you plant enough positive seeds in your life, at least some of them should take hold and bloom. Everyone is different, but nursing your way into a man’s heart is a time-tested approach to building love, and getting him to fully engage in your world.