Oral Sex Tips For Men

Guys, giving the woman you love GREAT oral sex is really not that difficult! Women write to me all the time telling me about their BAD experiences with their boyfriends in this department, and asking for my help. Here are some facts to think about…

First of all, women are wired differently to men. It takes time for their bodies to warm up, and they respond to delicate and deliberate stroking, rather than full on, fast forward, rough and ready oral sex techniques. Guys, please DON’T watch porn to learn oral sex. Those videos are made to masturbate to, not to learn from, and so they are an exaggerated fantasy. Most porn shows men flicking their tongues up and down on a women’s clitoris really hard. They sometimes call this technique “painting the fence”. DON’T do this, please. This can be WAY too intense for a woman to handle.

The clitoris has about 8000 nerve endings, and is a bit like a mini-penis. It’s a very sensitive thing. Slamming your tongue up and down on it can create an annoying or even painful sensation… and you’re meant to be producing intense pleasure, not intense pain!

Likewise, going straight to the clitoris hasn’t given the time and stimulation required for a girl to be warmed up… so don’t go straight to it! For a woman to orgasm she needs to be present with her mind engaged. Building up anticipation really helps her to achieve this state of mind…

When you’re next giving oral sex, take your time. Lick every little area around her vagina and near her clitoris. Tease her, and please her. Over time you’ll feel her body start to respond to your delicate tongue movements all over her sensitive body parts. When you get to her clitoris, put your lips around it and create a slight vacuum. Rather than flicking your tongue on her clitoris, you should lightly suck it instead between your lips. Because the clitoris is like a mini-penis, with lots of nerve endings concentrated into a small area, it’s going to be an amazing sensation for her.

To add to the excitement, start to hum with sounds like “mmmmm” whilst you’re sucking her… this creates a vibration, and is going to add to her pleasure. Women can be self conscious, so helping her to feel good about you being there is an absolute must. Giving her clues like “Darling, you taste so amazing…” or “Mmmmm, you’re really sexy here…” will help. This lets her know that you’re enjoying it, and will help her to relax too.

If you must get your tongue involved, and that’s ok, then try to write the alphabet with your tongue on her clitoris – without too much pressure. The variations your tongue will create when writing the letters will ensure it’s not predictable for her, and will create awesome sensations for her too.

Some women like internal penetration whilst they’re experiencing oral sex, and this is very much on a personal preference basis. If she’s open to that, then you can achieve great results using your fingers to stimulate her g-spot at the same time you’re performing oral sex on her. Again, the secret here is to be GENTLE and to be very aware of the sensitivity of her vaginal area.

Done well, oral sex with your girlfriend is really going to blow her mind! It’s great foreplay to the main event, or you can make it the main event. Whatever you do, be kind, be considerate, be patient, and be delicate. A woman is a sensitive being: show her your love and respect!