Are sexual energy and sexual magnetism the same thing? No, they’re very different. Sexual energy is that energy that flows inside of yourself. Sexual magnetism is the projection of this sexual energy to the outside world. You might have a lot of sexual energy, but this does not mean that you’ll automatically develop sexual magnetism.

To have sexual magnetism, you first develop and then enhance your sexual energy. This process often requires sexual discovery, through your own sexual experiences – alone or with a partner. What sexual energy do you feel inside? What are the blocks that make it hard for your energy to flow? Over time, you need to increase the quality and quantity of the sexual energy flowing inside of yourself, to get the best opportunities for hooking up.

Many people who lack sexual energy have created emotional, mental and energetic blocks inside of themselves that stop the energy flowing. When a sexual urge comes to them, regardless of when or how, their sexual energy doesn’t circulate freely inside the body – due to these energy blocks. Sometimes the blocks are medically related to sexual problems like impotence or premature ejaculation, but many times they’ve simply been inadvertently created by a person’s myth or belief system, or low self esteem, or overall shyness. These blocks must be removed!

Sometimes sexual energy blocks only manifest or create themselves during the attraction phase, when you are trying to seduce someone. You’re wanting, for example, to seduce a woman, but you don’t want to be obvious about your sexual intentions towards her. In this instance, you’re likely repressing your sexual energy – and this can over time create energy blocks in your body. Obviously this containing of sexual energy is done unconsciously, even though it leads on to self-sabotage.

Repressing your sexual energy is NOT helping you. Trust me, a good seduction must have sexual energy freely moving during the whole process. If sexual energy is not allowed to circulate, this affects the seduction and can result in awkwardness, shyness, and anxiety about talking with women overall. When sexual energy flows, it’s a much more pleasant experience!

Sexual energy blocks are a problem for both men and women, and there’s little differentiation in treatment. The first priority is always to untie these knots and allow the sexual energy to move freely in all kinds of situations. To do this you really need to get comfortable with yourself and your body image, and truly believe that you are desirable and worthy of being loved. You need to be open with your sexual feelings, and honest with others. Importantly, you’ve got to stop repressing your sexual thoughts and let them flow naturally as they occur. Be honest with yourself and with others about your intentions – in a subtle way if you wish. But do make it obvious at each opportunity that you’re ready for sex and love, without going too overboard!

Once you’ve solved your sexual energy flow issues, you need to learn how best to externalise this energy. You need to allow people around you to feel your sexual energy, and then decide for themselves if they wish to engage. Ideally you’re wanting to arouse some sort of sexual effect in them, without physical contact. By understanding the concept of sexual magnetism – the power to attract a mate by externalising your sexual energy – you can greatly increase your chances of finding encounter opportunities.

Sexual magnetism is best developed alongside the unblocking of your sexual energy. You need to learn how you function best. By going to parties or bars where you can meet people in crowds, you can try different conversation and approach combinations to work out how your sexual energy is being perceived by others. Coming on too strong? Dial things back. Not being noticed by any potential partners? Dial things up.

I personally worked out how my sexual energy was being perceived by women by talking to strippers at a local strip club for a few hours. I wasn’t afraid of rejection in their company, so I just talked to them in ways that I personally felt were comfortable for me, and hopefully for them, and then measured their responses. Sometimes I crossed lines and came on too strong, but most times I didn’t. Those experiences gave me much more confidence talking to women generally, in any situation.

Regardless of how you do your “research”, you’ll eventually find your body’s “sexual energy idle rate”, which you can then express via sexual magnetism. With practice you’ll be able to project this sexual energy 24/7 without any conscious effort. You can decrease the amplification of your sexual energy when you want to lay low, or increase it and laser sharpen your sexual energy towards someone when you’re trying to actively seduce them. By amplifying or reducing your sexual energy, your sexual magnetism adjusts for others.

So what if you just want to feel better about yourself and simply fix your sexual energy blocks – but NOT put them into action with others through sexual magnetism? It’s up to you how far you want to go. Just discovering and developing your sexual energy is already a great step up to increasing your overall attractiveness to others. If you’re after a girlfriend but not a sexual partner, this is perfectly adequate tooling. You can always develop your sexual magnetism at a later stage.

As a part time stage singer / entertainer, I often need to call on my sexual magnetism experience when performing. This is not to attract any women in the audience to sleep with me, but more to enhance my overall stage presence. By not holding back any sexual feelings that occur naturally when I’m happy and singing, I’m able to give more of myself to the audience, to smile more, and to be more comfortable with my body image. This leads to a more authentic and enjoyable experience – for myself and the audience.

The secret to sexual magnetism optimisation is practice, practice, practice. The rewards are there if you want them, and you’re in full control!

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