Sexting, the act of sending sexually explicit messages, photos, or videos via text message or social media, has become increasingly common in the modern dating world. While many people assume that sexting is primarily a young person’s activity, research has shown that a significant number of older adults also engage in sexting. I’m happy to provide some dos and don’ts of sexting to help ensure a safe experience.

DOs:

Only sext with someone you trust. Sexting can be a fun and exciting way to explore your sexuality, but it’s important to only sext with someone you trust. Make sure you have a strong and established relationship with the person before engaging in any sexting activity.

Be clear about your sexting boundaries and expectations. Before engaging in any sexting activity, it’s important to be clear about your boundaries and expectations. Let your partner know what you’re comfortable with and what you’re not comfortable with, and be prepared to listen to their boundaries and expectations as well.

Keep it respectful and consensual. Consent is key when it comes to sexting. Make sure that all parties involved are fully consenting to the activity and are comfortable with the level of explicitness. It’s also important to keep the sexting respectful, avoiding any derogatory or disrespectful language.

Protect your privacy. Sexting can be a private and intimate activity, but it’s important to protect your privacy. Consider using secure messaging apps, and avoid sharing personal information, such as your address or phone number.

DON’Ts:

Don’t send unsolicited sexts. Unsolicited sexts, or “dick pics”, can be invasive and disrespectful. Always make sure that your partner is interested and consenting before sending any sexually explicit messages or photos.

Don’t share explicit content without permission. It’s important to obtain explicit permission before sharing any explicit content, such as photos or videos. Respect your partner’s privacy and boundaries, and make sure that they are comfortable with any content being shared.

Don’t sext while under the influence. Sexting while under the influence of drugs or alcohol can lead to poor decision-making and regrettable actions. Avoid sexting while intoxicated, and make sure that you are clear-headed and in control.

Don’t forget the risks. Sexting comes with certain risks, such as the potential for the content to be shared or leaked. Remember to consider the risks and take steps to protect your privacy and safety, such as using secure messaging apps and avoiding sharing personal information.

Sexting can be a fun and exciting way to explore your sexuality, but it’s important to approach it with caution and care. By following these dos and don’ts of sexting for older adults, you can ensure a positive and safe experience. Remember to always prioritize consent, respect, and privacy, and communicate openly with your partner to ensure that everyone’s boundaries and expectations are being respected.