It’s tough to listen to a bunch of articles on the Internet explaining how to pull the girl of your dreams plus thirty others. Quite simply, there are so many and they all offer advice of all sorts, so for you to listen to one would be like picking a number out of a hat. However, there are guys out there who manage to pull women in with little effort. Is it his looks? Sure, those play a part. But the key to getting a girl is the attitude you carry with yourself. Looks can help that attitude, but really, if you just wear your attitude right, you’re in.

Your attitude is your way of thinking and acting that is reflected by your behavior. When it comes to your attitude while dating, it refers to how your outlook and way of thinking are made manifest in the way you interact with women. When it comes to showing a woman that attitude, you don’t have to be transparent and show that you’re trying. Never look like you’re trying to hard, or the woman will not respect you.

I know it’s a tired saying, but it’s true- there is nothing that impresses and attracts a girl more than a guy who is completely happy and comfortable acting as himself. But don’t think that means you should show up to your date wearing your boxers and eating Cheetos just because that’s what you were doing earlier. A girl still likes a man who puts a little effort into the way he looks and the way he presents himself. It shows drive and ambition, and even if boxers and Cheetos are more your style, it wouldn’t kill you to put on a shirt and pants. As a matter of fact, improving your hygiene and fashion will help you in the long run with women.

When approaching the girl in your nice clothes, smile and say hello in a confident voice, and remember you don’t have to work hard to impress her. This isn’t a talent show, it’s a bar, and you need to be sure that she knows you know that.

If all goes well, then great! Your attitude worked great and she was attracted to it. What if it doesn’t work? So what? The point of your attitude is that you are who you are, and if a girl didn’t want to make a move with you, that is out of your control, so let it go and find the next girl. That’s what makes your attitude unbreakable. Remember, this may or may not work, but it is the most natural approach to dating, and the one that will benefit you the most even when you don’t score. You’ll like yourself more when you’re acting like yourself instead of pretending to be just another guy in the bar.