What can you do when your partner’s kids don’t like you (Mum’s new partner)? Understanding family dynamics in relationships can be complex, and it can be difficult when the children do not accept or like the mother’s new partner. If the children (of any age) believe that the relationship is toxic based on what the mother is saying to them, it may be necessary to address the underlying issues that are causing the children to feel this way. Here are some steps that may help:

Consider the children’s feelings: It is important to remember that the children’s feelings are valid, and it is essential to create a positive and healthy environment for everyone involved, including the children.

Have patience: It may take time for the children to adjust to the new situation, and they may need to process their feelings before they can accept the new partner. Trust takes time to build and demonstrate.

Address the underlying issues: Identify the specific issues that are causing the children to believe the relationship is toxic. Are there concerns about the new partner’s behavior or actions? Are there communication issues within the family? Understanding the underlying issues can help to address them in a more effective manner.

Encourage open communication: Encourage open and honest communication between the mother, the new partner, and the children. This can help to address any misconceptions or misunderstandings that may be contributing to the children’s negative perceptions of the new partner.

Establish clear boundaries: Establish clear boundaries and expectations for the relationship between the new partner and the children. This can help to create a sense of safety and security for the children, and can also help the new partner understand the children’s perspective.

Seek professional help: If the situation becomes difficult to manage, it may be helpful to seek the help of a therapist or counselor who can help the family navigate the dynamics of the new relationship, and address any underlying issues that may be causing the children’s negative perceptions.

Whilst the children’s perception and feelings are valid, they might not have the whole picture. That’s why ongoing and honest communication is key, and seeking professional help can help to address the underlying issues and create a positive and healthy environment for everyone. Surely it’s in everyone’s best interests to try and find a workable and positive way forward, avoiding a relationship breakup.