When you walk up to the woman at the bar and she catches your eye, before you think of what to say, and before you tell that corny joke you heard at the office earlier today, she has already thought about who you are and what category you fall into. It’s all on a subconscious level, but it makes sense. We do it to people everyday- we see someone, and depending on the way they’re dressed, the people they resemble, and the way they carry themselves, we place them into a category in our heads. Women do the same with prospective partners. Let’s take a look: before you get to know her, a girl either likes you, doesn’t like you, or hasn’t come to a decision yet.

That seems simple enough, right? Well, let’s take a look at what it means to be in each category. To start with, if a girl likes you right off the bat, you’re clearly at an advantage. Maybe it was the shirt you’re wearing, or the way you smiled, or the way you showed your charm that got her, but she already has hopes for you working out. Now the ball is in your court, and it will just take a little work to make this more than just a chance encounter. It’s estimated that around ten percent of normal guys land in this category.

Now we address the other side of this. Let’s say she’s already decided she doesn’t like you. This is another thing we all do subconsciously, sometimes even consciously, when we first meet someone. Women do the same thing when a guy comes up to her. Unfortunately, once you fall into this category, you’ll have to do some serious work to get yourself out, because she’s already found a reason to not like you. It could be that you remind her of someone she hates, or maybe a certain personality quirk of yours just so happens to be her biggest pet peeve. Either way, you can expect around ten percent of normal guys to be cast into this unfortunate category.

And if you’re in the other eighty percent, you most likely fall into the realm of indecisiveness, where the girl hasn’t made up her mind about you yet. The reason such a large number of men fall into this category is simple- most of the time we don’t have much of an opinion on a person until we have a little bit more interaction with them and get to know them better. This category is almost as good to be in as the “I like you” category. You’re basically starting from scratch, and it’s all in your hands to make or break the encounter. If you have some confidence, play it simple, and you follow some simple seduction tactics, you’ll be just fine.